I sincerely understand that having a newborn baby is not easy. My wife and I need to consider things, especially now that all our attention, energy, time, and effort tend to double. We both need to do our best to keep our newborn safe and sound all the time.

However, despite all the happiness I know I have to feel, I still have this weird feeling that things are not okay. No. It has nothing to do with my wife or my child because it is all about me. I get to feel this emotional roller coaster that I am not familiar with. All these emotions and thoughts keep bringing me to the brink of frustration, agitation, and confusion. And sometimes, I get distracted with my goal where I question myself what my goal is exactly.

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Change Of Heart Or Mental Illness?

I am aware that my wife and I now have a baby, which requires many responsibilities. But in all honesty, I somehow feel like I am not truly happy. You might say that I am the worst person you will ever meet, but I certainly do not feel like I am ready, capable, and confident of becoming a father. It is not that I don’t want to, but something at the back of my mind tells me I’m not worthy, incapable, unreliable, and all sorts of those negative stuff. Those things linger in my head, and I can’t seem to take them all away. What is happening to me? I don’t understand these negative thoughts and emotions, but I know I am not myself.

Certainly, this particular thing that is happening to me is not a change of heart. There is no way I cannot be happy with my wife and child. Luckily, I found out that all this emotional and mental torture is part of a mental illness known to women. Unfortunately, I never expected that men could also experience this so-called postpartum depression.

What are the causes of postpartum depression? 

Postpartum or also known as “baby blues,” is common to moms after childbirth. It commonly includes crying spells, mood swings, anxiety, and difficulty with concentration. Usually, it originates from a dramatic drop in the body’s level hormones, specifically progesterone and estrogen. Postpartum can leave sluggish and depressed feelings that are often irritably unexplainable.

Though that description only defines symptoms for women, I, unfortunately, am experiencing it right now. Therefore, I can say that postpartum is exclusive for my wife and affects me.

 How do new dads cope? 

Having a newborn baby, especially for the first time, can be entirely overwhelming for the mother and the father. A dad needs to understand lots of things and exert extra effort to keep things intact, especially when taking care of his newborn and wife. If there’s a chance, a nee dad should talk about how hid daily lives and relationship often. That way, he can encourage and prepare himself for the upcoming challenges of fatherhood.

 How can you prevent postpartum? 

Though many people get affected by postpartum, there are still so many ways to deal with it. First, you should educate yourself about what postpartum is all about and learn how it affects your life and everyone’s lives. It is entirely essential to avoid making major life changes during or right after childbirth. It is okay to vent out and express your pain, thoughts, and feelings during or right after the delivery. But it would help if you enlisted good support during birthing. You have to surround yourself with positive people that will care and stick with you during and after an amazing moment of your life.

 What is the difference between peripartum and postpartum depression? 

Peripartum depression applies to a significant mental health issue, particularly depression during pregnancy or within four weeks following the baby’s delivery. Postpartum depression, on the other hand, refers to the major depressive symptoms that occur in the first six weeks after giving birth. It is an intense and crucial moment that necessitates all sorts of care, focusing on the mother and the baby’s health and wellbeing.

 Can a woman go crazy after giving birth? 

Unfortunately, in some instances, the answer is yes. Postpartum psychosis, though a rare condition, tends to be a serious mental health illness that affects a woman soon after having a baby. But usually, the whole birth-giving scenario only brings mild mood changes or known as the baby blues. For some new moms, this is normal and usually lasts only for a couple of days.

 Is it normal to cry a lot after having a baby? 

There is a roller coaster of emotions right after giving birth, and that is entirely normal. Getting overwhelmed and crying a lot in the days after giving birth is what most moms usually do. However, if the overwhelming feelings tend to stay longer than expected and probably causing a toll on the mom’s life, it is vital to seek professional medical advice. That is because the feeling of unable to cope for more than ten days after giving birth might sign postpartum depression.

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 What causes postpartum psychosis? 

There is not enough proof that shows what commonly causes postpartum psychosis in women right after giving birth. However, a new mom is more at risk if she has a family history of mental health illness. These include diagnosis of bipolar disorder or schizophrenia and a negatively traumatic birth or pregnancy experience.

 How long does anxiety last after having a baby? 

Feelings of stress, sadness, and anxiety can escalate right after giving birth. These negative emotions are more persistent for some new moms than the joy and delight of holding their child. People consider it an experience as “baby blues” or the normal part of postpartum recovery. It usually goes away 1–2 weeks after the successful delivery.

 What is a postpartum woman? 

Postpartum’s terms of puerperium or puerperal period mean the time after childbirth. It is also recognized as “baby blues” and usually starts immediately after childbirth as the mother’s body, including uterus size and hormone levels, returns to a non-pregnant condition. For many new moms, the baby blues go away in about 3 to 5 days. However, if it does not, and the feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness stay longer than two weeks, it tends to become postpartum depression.

 How do dads feel when the baby is born? 

New dads also experience overwhelming emotions when their child is born. But unlike new moms, they don’t exactly feel fuzzy and warm at first. Fathers often don’t have the same love-at-first-sight experience with their babies compared to the mothers. Perhaps that is because they do not share the same experience in pregnancy as women do.

 Do newborns know their mother? 

Yes. A baby can immediately recognize his or her mother’s face, smell, and voice right from birth. The babies respond to their instinct well. It is as if they already knew how their senses function even before they learn to use them. That explains why parents are highly recommended and advised to talk to their newborn.

 Do newborns know who their father is? 

Unfortunately, there are no studies and enough evidence that evaluate whether babies can recognize their fathers or not. Newborn babies have blurry vision, and by the moment they are a few weeks old, that is the only time they can recognize their parents’ faces. However, some claim that these babies can already identify their parents through their voices’ smell and sound.

 How long does it take to recover and feel normal after pregnancy?

A full recovery from pregnancy and childbirth is different from one person to another. Usually, it can take quite a few months. Some women feel mostly recovered by 6-8 weeks. However, it may take longer to feel like they are back with themselves again when it comes to the mental and emotional part.

 How does pregnancy affect mental health?

Women may feel more stressed, anxious, and vulnerable during their pregnancy. Some may develop depression, injuries, diseases, and other physical problems that often contribute to poor mental health and sometimes mental disorders. Some physical causes, such as birth trauma, can directly affect brain chemistry, leading to mental dysfunction.

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Never assume that mental illness is gender-based because it is not. Postpartum depression, though most common in women, can also affect men. Thus, if you ever experience the symptoms, get help immediately.


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